No More What-Ifs: The Guide to a Life Without Regrets

Pocholo De Leon Gonzales, Episode 3 of The Pochology

Have you ever found yourself stuck in the endless cycle of "What if?" What if you had started that business you always dreamed of? What if you had taken that college course you were passionate about? What if you had accepted that job offer abroad? What if you had confessed your love before it was too late?

Pocholo Gonzalez, the Pochologist himself, dives deep into these questions in his talk on Pochology—the philosophy of living life with passion, purpose, and without regrets. His insights are a wake-up call to anyone who has ever hesitated to chase their dreams.

Breaking Free from Regrets

Living with regrets is like being trapped in a time loop of unanswered questions. The worst part? There’s no rewind button. That’s why Pocholo decided early on to focus on doing what he loves and making every day an adventure. And because of that mindset, he has met countless people, traveled to amazing places, and created opportunities not just for himself but for others, too.

But what’s his secret? He shares three powerful "What ifs" that changed his life.

1. What if Money Wasn’t an Issue?

Let’s be real—money is often the driving force behind our actions. People work hard, start businesses, and even take risks because of money. We hear it all the time:

"Once I have enough money, I’ll stop working." "If I had more money, I’d travel the world." "When I become rich, I’ll finally have time for my family."

But here’s the catch: money is a cycle. The more you have, the more you’ll want. Instead of chasing money, why not chase your passion? Pocholo discovered that when you truly follow what you love, money follows. As a motivational speaker, he has traveled to numerous places—many times for free! He’s proof that when passion drives you, opportunities come knocking.

2. What if You Stopped Caring About Others’ Opinions?

How many times have you held back because of what others might say? How many dreams have you delayed because you feared judgment? The truth is, no matter what you do, someone will always have something to say. Even the kindest people get criticized.

Instead of wasting energy trying to please everyone, focus on the people you can genuinely help. Their opinions don’t define your reality. At the end of the day, it’s your journey—make it count.

3. What if You Had Nothing to Prove?

We all want to be recognized and appreciated. But do we really need external validation to know our worth? Pocholo believes that your number one fan should be yourself. Every time he finishes a project, whether it’s a recording, a website, or a poster, he congratulates himself. Because why not? Celebrating small wins builds confidence and raises your standards.

Speaking of standards—did you know that your standards should be higher than your goals? Goals are just targets, but high standards push you to go beyond. If you keep raising the bar for yourself, success becomes inevitable.

Live Without the "What Ifs"

Here’s the ultimate question: What if you died tomorrow? Or even later today? Scary, right? But that’s the reality—we don’t know how much time we have left. So, what’s it going to be? A life filled with regrets? Or a life full of adventures?

Pocholo Gonzales leaves us with this powerful reminder: Do great and be great. Don’t let your what-ifs hold you back. Instead, turn them into action. Start today, because tomorrow isn’t promised.

What did you learn from this? Share your thoughts in the comments!

Let’s make life an adventure worth living!